Often a date does not go well. Just due to the fact that there’s an issue of some kind doesn’t indicate you can’t get a ‘result’ from the date. You know what I indicate by ‘result’, don’t you?
I had a date a couple of months ago that went incredibly incorrect, however ended up right in the end.
I fulfilled my date for the first time in the parking lot of a country club. I followed my usual method for greeting a female to set the best ‘tone’ for the date.
As you can see from page 158 of my e-book ‘Online Dating Tips For Men’, if you can get things onto a flirty/sexy tone from the start, then your chances of success are quite magnified.
The pub was nice, however really hectic. There was only one table complimentary where we might sit, and that was right up against a larger table where a celebration of four were eating.
Anyway, I ordered beverages and we sat down and began chatting. Things were working out.
Then, nearly subconsciously, I discovered something odd. Whenever I began to speak, a voice at the next table started too, quite loudly.
So, without diverting more than a little of my attention from my date (which is always a huge error), I listened to the rather flourishing voice from the table next to us.
What was occurring was that a big, jowly guy, with a nose red-tipped most likely from years of drinking port red wine, was COMMENTING on everything I was saying! He was clearly the host of his party, with a dominating character that was almost bullying his visitors into focusing on him. They chuckled nicely at his snide comments, however without enthusiasm.
At this point, my date recognized what was going on too. We relocated close so we might whisper to each other. We decided not to make a fuss, which whether it shut the guy up would have set a bad tone for the remainder of the date.
And I was rather delighted to move in close and talk quietly with my date. In fact I couldn’t have been happier because, as discussed on page 162 of ‘Online Dating Tips For Men’, talking quietly and closely is among the very best ways of establishing relationship and intimacy.
Regrettably despite the fact that our disrespectful next-door neighbor could not hear us, he kept commenting about us and speculating about what we might be talking about. ‘Fans canoodling’ was how he explained us at one point!
Clearly this was an uncomfortable scenario, however I was in fact taking advantage of it as I was getting closer to my date, and we were sharing this challenging experience. The relationship was ending up being extreme and we began touching hands.
Ultimately the large man went quiet, however that was rather irrelevant as my date and I remained in our own private bubble of intimacy.
In other words, it was a fantastic very first date and set exactly the right tone for us to advance to the second!
There are lots of things that can fail in a date that are beyond control.
Typically that can result in a relationship and bond being established much more quickly than would otherwise be the case.
In some cases a date doesn’t go well. Just because there’s an issue of some kind doesn’t indicate you can’t get a ‘result’ from the date. What was taking place was that a large, jowly guy, with a nose red-tipped probably from years of drinking port wine, was COMMENTING on whatever I was stating! At this point, my date realized what was going on too. We decided not to make a hassle, which whether or not it shut the man up would have set a bad tone for the rest of the date.